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In December 2025, a Syracuse police officer offered a ride to a woman who was struggling with her groceries
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After a photo of the meeting was shared online, the officer found out that the woman had been sleeping on her husband’s grave for months
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Determined to help, the officer managed to raise funds for the widow and even found her a safe and warm home as the winter temperatures dropped.
A chance encounter between a Syracuse Police Department officer and a woman carrying groceries became a lifeline for her after months of homelessness.
On December 13, 2025, while parked in his patrol car, Officer Jamie Pastorello, 33, noticed Rhea Holmes struggling up a hill with a box of groceries and offered her a ride. “I thought, ‘I want to give this lady a ride,'” Pastorello told TODAY.com.
Holmes, 55, revealed that she was heading to a cemetery in Syracuse, NY, where her husband was buried. During the short drive, she talked about her marriage of 26 years and her faith, and thanked him repeatedly for stopping to help.
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Before getting out of the car, Holmes asked Pastorello to take a picture with her. The department later posted the image on Facebook in the days leading up to Christmas, describing it as a moment of kindness during the holiday season. The post spread widely, even reaching a maintenance worker at the cemetery, who recognized Holmes and contacted authorities with concern.
The worker said he had seen Holmes regularly since the summer and believed she had been sleeping in the cemetery, often on top of her husband’s grave. The information shocked Pastorello. “We deal with homelessness every day,” he said. “She had no signs.”
As it turns out, Holmes had been living in the cemetery for about eight months, next to the graves of both her husband and her father. She slept on a tarp placed over her husband’s grave, “wore the same clothes every day” and stored limited grocery items nearby.
She avoided drawing attention to herself and never asked for help. “I never imagined I would be in that situation,” Holmes told TODAY.com. “Not in a million years.”
Before losing housing, Holmes worked as an administrative assistant. Her husband, Rev. Eddie Holmes, was a minister and musician who also worked as a security guard. He died suddenly of a heart attack in 2020 at the age of 69.
After his death and consumed by grief, Rhea lost her job and was eventually evicted. She avoided shelters because she felt safer on her own – she spent frigid winter nights outside and used bathrooms on nearby campuses to maintain basic hygiene.
Despite her circumstances, she continued to volunteer at food pantries and churches. “I kept giving to others,” Rhea said. “It was the only way I could keep going.”
Rhea said she believes her faith led her to Pastorello. “God put Jamie there,” she emphasized. “He knew I needed help, and He guided me to Him.”
After learning the full extent of her situation, Pastorello helped secure temporary housing for Rhea and started a GoFundMe that raised more than $27,000.
“Rhea, you are not going to sleep outside again. I will not let that happen,” he told her.
She was later connected with a local organization that provides small, fully furnished homes for those in need – and moved into a fully furnished unit on January 5, 2026.
As Syracuse temperatures dropped well below freezing during the recent snowstorms, Rhea was safely inside. “I know I wouldn’t have done it,” she told TODAY.com. “If that ride didn’t happen when it did… I don’t even want to imagine.”
More than a month after their first meeting, Pastorello said he and Rhea have become “great friends,” talking on the phone almost every day and often meeting for coffee.
“Sometimes, it’s just about showing up,” Pastorello told TODAY. “A simple act at the right time can change everything.”
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